rose hip face oil

i’ve been somewhat patiently waiting for the first frost. rose hips are best picked after it has passed since it won’t encourage new growth on the plant that would be killed off by the next freeze, plus if you’re planning to make jelly they’ll be sweeter after a cold snap! i’ve been eyeing these nutrient packed things for face oil! i use oil to cleanse, moisturize and treat scarring and wrinkles. rose hip oil is one of the most effective, but can be pricey and since i have a wild rose bush right outside the front door, i decided to try my hand at making my own. i bought some organic jojoba oil online and got to work. you want to use one part rose hips to two parts oil – basically enough oil to fully cover the amount of rose hips you’ve harvested. you can do a cold infusion with dry hips by covering them with oil in a sealed jar and allowing it to sit in a cool dark place for two to four weeks. since i didn’t want to wait for them to dry, but wanted to avoid any molding i chose to do a heat infusion. i’ve really enjoyed using this! the essential oils i chose to add give it a very earthy smell, but it absorbs quickly without a trace and it’s worth it for the benefits i know it’s offering my skin. as always, have fun with it!

items needed:

  • face oil of choice
  • rose hips (harvested or purchased from a reputable source)
  • cheese cloth
  • mortar and pestle (or a bowl and spoon)
  • one cup of water
  • small class container
  • slow cooker
  • measuring cup with spout
  • vitamin e capsules or primrose oil capsules and essential oils of choice (optional)
  • amber dropper bottle(s)



  • gather and wash rose hips, remove debris or rotting hips
  • using a mortar and pestle gently mash rose hips until all are open and softening
  • fill a small glass container with rose hips and oil of choice
  • put a cup of water in the bottom of your slow cooker, turn on high, and place glass container uncovered in the bottom
  • allow to simmer for 4-8 hours
  • once slightly cooled use cheese cloth to separate the hips and seeds from the oil (allow to drip for a while and be sure to squeeze out the excess with clean hands!)
  • pierce and add the contents of a couple vitamin e or evening primrose capsules (what i used because it’s what i had on hand) and your choice of essential oils to proper dilution. i used carrot seed oil and frankincense (10-15 drops of each for 4oz. of oil). vitamin e oil will also help with preservation of the oil.
  • store in a dark bottle with a dropper (i reused the bottle my jojoba oil came in, but there are plenty of places to get inexpensive amber dropper bottles!)
  • use as needed (day or night)





our sweet and sour summer bodies stacked on top of bed sheets and begging for a breeze  to pass over exposed flesh. the garden is, for the first time, failing to thrive and sometimes it feels like we are too. stagnation, i suppose, can be common to both people and flowers. lately we’ve been falling asleep to slow, sad songs while i run lavender fingers through your hair in the dark. through my small window i can just make out the silhouettes of leafless, bony oaks and i try to feel still while your breathing changes.


the color left your skin some time ago, but i can still find it in your eyes. a shade that escapes the hands of man. like sunlight dancing on a milky sea. last night i dreamt i’d wrapped you in white bandages and cried over all the places that hurt in you and when we unstuck them my tears had healed you.





spring part two

our second spring in the burn scar feels oddly similar to the first. it smells less of ash and more of cut grass, but the open spaces where a forest once stood have again been taken over by weeds and flowers of every color. without even the bones of a house to call our own we are somehow more patient than before. with less resistance there seems to be more room for joy. more than enough. free hours are spent sweating in the expanded garden. more beds for new crops. old leather gloves patting a dusty dog’s back. a long table at which to share meals with family and friends. where we’ll linger until well after dark when the air regularly forgets to cool itself before morning. i still have less words than before, but i’m making time to read others’. in actual books. and more often feeling the weight of my camera in sun kissed hands. while the weather eases us into the long, hot days coming, such small mercies seem to somehow ease the ache of lingering loss this time of year inevitably carries with it. and i’m forever finding balm for my broken bits in fields of wildflowers.


spring part one

“things will go every way, but our way” would seem to be the prevailing theme of our lives for the last two years. recently, in a complicated and frustrating turn of events, we decided to move in a new direction in regards to our contractor/architect. unfortunately for us this means starting from scratch and waving goodbye to a year’s worth of planning and dreaming. we spent two days following this decision quiet in our disappointment. mourning the floor plan and the loss of time. kicking ourselves for not making the necessary decision sooner. we took one day to vent our anger to each other, finishing each other’s sentences and reaffirming our desire to always be straightforward with people even if you can’t count on them to do the same for you. and after that? we got to work, like we always do, brainstorming ways to make life here more comfortable. making purchases and changes that’d we’d been holding off on until the house was finished, because at this point only god knows how much longer we’ll call the trailer home. and because life is short and happening now. new plants with homemade wood round and plank tables to display them. a new mattress for our creaky, winter bones. a garden expansion in the works to include a covered picnic area and most convenient of all a washing machine under the carport. making it possible for us to stay home to do our laundry for the first time in over a year. the only mercy in it all being that is comes just as spring wakes the hillsides. emboldened by fire, wild poppies have invaded the snow peas. iridescent sage and raspberry shoots greet me every morning on my way to gather eggs and we spend most evenings underneath the stars. the birds have returned to the trees that survived. along with families of deer and anxious jack rabbits, we have ample evidence of skunks making new homes here (washing two dogs with an outdoor trailer shower is an adventure all it’s own). there’s color and fresh growth in almost every direction. we seem to find new pine tree shoots on every walk and can almost imagine, twenty years from now, a new forest having taken root. in those moments it always feels right to have stayed.


deep winter makes way

bird-bathhthe first daffodils have begun to peak through the soggy dirt. one of the last remnants of our old life here. the trees have continued to die despite the sky’s best effort. torrents of water carve changes in the roads we drive everyday. always a new waterfall or flooded shoulder. i haven’t bothered with them since the frost killed them, blackening their eager shoots, but the potatoes are sprouting from a pile of straw once again. the beets and my seed bank were ruined by a particularly brutal and unexpected rain. i have not replaced either as of yet, but deep winter is making way for spring. the sun peaks over our ridge a little longer each day and i’m slowly favoring a thin flannel for egg gathering over my winter coat most mornings. i am a haphazard homesteader as of late. i have only four small crops and six happy chickens to show for this season, but i’ll take what i can get. weary of trailer life and holding out for a proper kitchen and pantry, i’m doing my best. or at least the best i can muster most days.

a year into living under a carport on our charred dream, jack and i have stretched out comfortably in our marriage. no longer afraid to show our underbellies and with no where else to go, we learned to fight. we’ve practiced “i’m sorry” and touching each other gently more than many probably do in a lifetime. i’d be a desperate, sorry woman if i had to live without him now.

spring promises more challenges for our family as my father enters intense treatment for his cancer, but we are not without hope or things to look forward to. we have finalized plans for the house that will sit near the spot my favorite oak is slated to come down two days from now. at night, just before sleep, i walk through the rooms in my head and see us there. sitting and sleeping and cooking and laughing and begging life to slow down. i imagine us with a child. from where it will come i do not know, but i think he or she is already with us in ways we’re yet to understand.

i am acutely aware that this will all seem like a distant dream one day. i am doing my best to breathe it in and reminding myself to never wish my life away. even and perhaps especially when it’s hard. the good times coming are gonna to taste so sweet.

on wanting


perhaps my least favorite part of the human experience. it’s nuances unique to the individual and in privileged society, preyed upon at almost every turn. in print and on any. available. screen. often in ways so subtle we hardly pause to consider it’s consequences. comparison’s best companion. the enemy of contentment and a thief of joy. a distraction from those among us in need. i’ve grown more aware, and subsequently more tired, the older i’ve gotten. becoming more selective of the magazines i choose to read or the online accounts i choose to follow. if it only encourages fixation on what i imagine my life to be lacking, why would i continue to let it?  what will be left when i’ve drawn my last breath? nothing i’ve coveted, of that i’m almost certain.

as of late my wanting has been somewhat tempered. the loss of certain things has forced life into focus in painfully beautiful ways. blurred bits of my heart’s desire are now so clear. all but one feels within reach. simple, slow dreams. but wholly mine. it has been nearly three years since we decided we’d like, together, to be parents. in those years we have watched many couples around us become pregnant, swell with and deliver new life. some more than once. even worse, we’ve heard unimaginable stories of harmed or forgotten children in the news. i’ve wept and i’ve raged. i’ve carried the wanting like a stone in my pocket.turning it over and over and over and asking why. all the time, why. i can’t any longer. the stone is too heavy, the thievery of joy too great.

as we enter a season of giving and are relentlessly bombarded with the message of more, i invite you to lay down your stones. it doesn’t matter how big, small, or many in number. if it makes you feel like less. if it blurs the view of all you have in front of you. even if it hurts. it’s okay to let them fall from your fingers. you have enough. you are enough. the best gifts we can give each other now are our voices. honest, encouraging, just, and vulnerable voices.




i’ve spent months spinning sentence fragments around in my mind, unable to give weight to the heaviness out there. i’ve been working instead on listening and on writing only to let go. without fear of judgment, yours or my own.  we’ve tucked into each other here, the way the first cooler days  of fall promised we could. i’ve watched the spinach and collard greens reach eagerly for the sun. the potatoes have volunteered from their pile of straw and dirt, unaware of the frosts that are sure to come. i bide my time pulling weeds in between rows of carrots and laughing into my husband’s neck under a pile of blankets. things feel still inside me for the first time in a long while and i’m trying not to let it scare me. i’m worth just as much this way. 


to us

i wrote the following words some days ago and just found them tucked away between torn out pages and smudges of ink…

“we’re so different now. even if we can’t tell quite how. i can see the way you look at me when i laugh. and the way our skin jumps ever so slightly off our bones when another ancient pine hits the forest floor. i’m sorry that i disappear sometimes. i want so badly to be here now. with you. in this. every day. but i get so tired. i get so lost.”

they feel so familiar and so foreign all at once because some days they are still so true, but most they are no longer. in many ways i’m coming out the other side of them. we remained so hopeful in the days and weeks following the upheaval of our lives last june. it all started with a phone call. dan is missing. his car was found in the red hills. this isn’t like him. and then the fire. so fast and unrelenting. so much support. so many kind words. propping us up like sticks in the mud. but as the months trudged on and people went back to their lives…we got angry. with the loss and the waiting and each other. you rarely failed to offer a kind word, but i think i did. it’s easy when things get hard to try to go it alone. to think you can handle it better that way. together, but separate. but we spoke up. and we said sorry. and life with anyone, but you wouldn’t make a damn bit of sense after all that. 

so, we’re different now. but i think mostly in the best ways. not only in the wounded ways. more sure of ourselves. of each other. of what we want and where we’re going. together.